Part 2: My Dying Father Couldn’t Walk Me Down The Aisle — So 30 Bikers In Leather Cuts Stood Up From The Pews And Pushed His Wheelchair Together
PART 2
I want to tell you who my father was before he was a sixty-year-old man in a wheelchair.
Marvin Hatcher was born in 1964 in a small farm town outside Davenport, Iowa. His father was a hog farmer who drank, his mother was a Sunday school teacher who did not. He had one older brother named Frank who joined the Marines in 1979 and came home in 1982 in a state from which he never fully returned. Frank passed in 1997 of complications related to that state, at the age of thirty-six, and my father — who had idolized his older brother in the way younger brothers idolize older brothers in farm towns in the seventies — my father got the wolf tattooed across his chest two months after the funeral.
Frank had had the same wolf.
Frank had gotten it in Camp Lejeune in 1980.
My father got his copied off of his brother’s body during the wake.
He has worn it for twenty-seven years.
He met my mother in 1995 at a roadhouse off the I-80 outside Davenport called The Halfway. She was twenty-six. She was a registered nurse. She was a tiny woman — five foot two, a hundred and ten pounds — and my father always told the story of meeting her by saying, “Boys. She walked across that bar like she owned the place. She was a hundred and ten pounds of governor.”
They got married in 1997. They had me in 1999. My mother was thirty. My father was thirty-five.
He prospected for our charter in 1993, before he met my mother. He earned his patch in May of 1994. He has been a patched brother for thirty-one years. The charter is an independent club that rides out of eastern Iowa. Twenty years ago, in 2004, when our charter President — a man named Bishop, sixty-eight years old now, the same man who would later sit in the front pew at my wedding — when Bishop asked my father to be road captain, my father said yes on one condition.
The condition was that he be home every Saturday night by eight p.m.
My mother had told him, the first year they were married, that she did not mind the brotherhood, did not mind the rides, did not mind the patches, and did not mind the long miles. What she minded was a husband who was not in his own house on Saturday night.
He was home every Saturday night for thirty years.
He missed exactly two Saturdays in thirty years. One was for his brother Frank’s funeral in 1997. The other was the night I was born in March of 1999.
I want to tell you what my father was like as a father.
I am the only child of a man who got me at thirty-five and treated me, from the moment they put me in his arms, the way a man treats a thing he had been told he was not going to get to have. He read to me. He braided my hair, badly, until I was eight. He taught me to ride a bicycle in the gravel driveway of our small house outside Tipton. He came to every school play, every choir concert, every parent-teacher conference, every soccer game. He came to all of them in his cut, which embarrassed me for about three years in middle school and which I have never been embarrassed by since.
The small pink ribbon patch with my name on it — RACHEL — that my mother sewed onto the inside of his cut over his heart in November of 2001, when I was three years old and home from preschool with a hundred-and-three fever — my father wore that patch every single day for the next twenty-four years.
He wore it under the borrowed suit at my wedding.
I asked him to.
He looked at me when I asked him, the morning of the ceremony, in the bride’s room. He did not say anything for a second. Then he reached one shaking hand up to his chest and he pressed it flat against the spot under the suit where the patch was, and he said:
“Honey. It’s there.”
PART 3
The wedding was at three p.m. on a Saturday in August.
First Lutheran Church on Cedar Street in Tipton has eight pews on each side of the center aisle and a small wooden altar at the front under a single stained-glass window of a dove. The aisle is twenty-three steps long if you are walking at a normal pace. I had counted them at the rehearsal the night before because I had wanted, very badly, to know how many steps my father was going to have to push the wheelchair through.
Twenty-three steps.
The chair was a chrome-rimmed manual wheelchair from the hospital supply company in Iowa City. My father had insisted on the manual, not the powered one. He had told my mother, very quietly, that he wanted his daughter to be the one moving him down the aisle. He did not want her to be a passenger on a power chair pushing buttons. He wanted her hands on the handles.
The plan, which my father had told the pastor and which my mother and I had agreed to that morning in the bride’s room, was that I would push him down the first nineteen steps. At the twentieth step, where the carpet has a small seam, I would stop the chair. He would put his shaking eighty-seven-pound right hand into the air. I would take it. He would, with the help of my fiancé Caleb who would be waiting at the altar — Caleb would walk down the last four steps and meet us — he would, between us, transfer me from his hand to Caleb’s hand.
That was the plan.
That was the dignity we had agreed on.
The processional music started.
My father took a single shallow breath.
He nodded at me.
I started pushing.
We made it nineteen steps.
I stopped the chair at the seam in the carpet, the way we had practiced, and I looked down at my father. He was looking up at the altar where Caleb was waiting in a borrowed gray suit with tears in his eyes. My father lifted his right hand.
His right hand made it about four inches above the armrest.
It dropped.
He tried again.
It dropped again.
His arm — which had been the kind of arm that could hold a Harley up at a dead stop for three minutes on a hot afternoon in 1998 — his arm could not, that afternoon in August of 2024, lift itself eighteen inches in the air to take his daughter’s hand.
He tried a third time.
I watched his face go red with the effort.
I watched it stop being red and turn pale.
I watched my father, in front of one hundred and sixty people including thirty patched brothers in the third pew, fail to do the one thing he had told my fiancé in a parking lot in February that he was going to do.
I bent down.
I put my hand on his shoulder.
I said, very quietly: “Daddy. It’s okay. It’s okay. I’ll just bend down. We can do it that way.”
I watched my father’s eyes go wet.
He did not let the tears fall. My father has not cried in front of strangers since 1997, when his brother Frank’s casket was closed.
He whispered, in a voice I could barely hear:
“Rachel. I’m sorry. I’m so sorry, honey.”
That was when the third pew stood up.
PART 4
I did not see them stand at first.
I was looking at my father.
I heard the sound first — the sound thirty leather cuts make when thirty patched brothers stand up in a single quiet motion, all at the same time, the way they stand up at a funeral when the casket is being walked out. It is a sound you do not forget. It is the sound of thirty seat cushions exhaling and thirty pairs of leather sleeves rubbing against thirty leather backs and thirty pairs of boots settling on the wooden floor of a small Lutheran church in eastern Iowa.
I looked up.
Bishop — our charter President, sixty-eight years old, white hair, white beard, four-time grandfather, a patched brother for forty-one years and the man who patched my father in 1994 — Bishop was the first one standing. He was standing in the aisle of the third pew. He had taken one step out into the center aisle of the church. He was looking at my father in the wheelchair.
Behind Bishop, twenty-nine other patched brothers in worn black leather cuts were standing in the pews. Some of them had been to Iraq. Some had been to Afghanistan. Three of them had buried wives. All of them had ridden behind my father for between four years and thirty-one years.
Bishop did not say anything.
Bishop walked down the center aisle to the wheelchair.
He put one hand on the right handle of the wheelchair. Just one hand.
He looked at me.
He nodded.
I let go of the handle on that side. I kept my left hand on the handle on the other side.
Tank — six foot four, two-eighty, twenty-three years patched, a man who had taught me how to back a trailer down a boat ramp when I was fourteen — Tank walked down the aisle and put his hand on the left handle next to mine.
Reverend Henley — different Reverend, our club Reverend, fifty-four years old, the man who had given me my first ride on the back of a Harley when I was five — Reverend Henley walked down the aisle and put one hand on the front of the wheelchair where my father’s footrests were.
A man named Cabbage put a hand on the back of the chair.
A man named Hoss put a hand on top of the right armrest.
A man named Dutch.
A man named Bowie.
A man named Sully.
A man named Mack.
A man named Wheels.
A man named Tio.
I want you to understand what I am describing. Thirty patched brothers, in worn black leather cuts, walked from the third pew of First Lutheran Church on Cedar Street in Tipton, Iowa, on a Saturday afternoon in August, and they put thirty hands on the chrome and the leather and the footrests and the armrests and the back of one chrome-rimmed manual wheelchair containing a sixty-year-old man who weighed eighty-seven pounds.
Bishop looked at me.
Bishop said, very quietly:
“Rachel. Push with us, sweetheart.”
I pushed.
Thirty men pushed with me.
The wheelchair did not need thirty pairs of hands to roll four steps down a church aisle. Eighty-seven pounds in a chrome chair on flat carpet can be moved by one finger if you have the leverage. They did not push because the wheelchair needed pushing.
They pushed because that is what brothers do.
We covered the last four steps in about six seconds.
We stopped at the altar.
Caleb was standing there in his gray suit with his face wet and his hand out.
I bent down.
I put my forehead against my father’s forehead.
I said: “Daddy. You did walk me down the aisle. You had thirty of them. That is the most beautiful wedding I could have asked for.”
My father — Marvin Lee Hatcher, eighty-seven pounds, sixty years old, four months from the end of his life, pancreatic cancer in his liver and his bones and his lungs — my father whispered into my hair:
“Honey. Thank you for stopping for me.”
That was what he said.
PART 5
I want to back up and tell you the things you have been hearing without knowing you were hearing them.
The small pink ribbon patch with the name RACHEL stitched on it that my mother sewed to the inside of my father’s cut in November of 2001 — when I was three years old and home with a hundred-and-three fever — my father had asked my mother to make him that patch the night he had sat up with me until four in the morning because the fever would not break.
He had told my mother, sitting in the rocking chair in my nursery with my small hot body asleep on his chest, that he wanted something on his cut that would tell him, every time he put it on, what he was riding home for.
My mother sewed the patch the next afternoon.
He wore it for twenty-four years.
When my father asked the hospice nurse, two weeks before the wedding, to trim his beard down to the third button of his cut — he was asking her to make sure the cut sat the way it had sat for thirty-one years. He had told my mother, the night before he asked, that he wanted to look right in the cut at the wedding. He had told her he was not going to be able to wear the cut on top of the suit at the church — the cut would not have fit over his suit jacket, and even if it had, my mother had asked him gently if he might consider leaving it home for the ceremony — but he was going to be wearing it underneath. He had told my mother he wanted the pink ribbon patch directly over his heart, against his chest, under the suit, so that during the ceremony there would be something with my name on it pressed against him.
He wore it.
I felt it when I put my forehead against his at the altar.
The other thing I did not tell you.
Bishop, our President, the man who had patched my father in May of 1994, had asked my father two weeks before the wedding what my father wanted the charter to do at the ceremony. Bishop had offered, very carefully, to keep the brothers in the back pews so that the ceremony would feel like family and not like a club function. Bishop had said, “Hatch. We can keep it small. You just say the word.”
My father had said: “Bishop. Bring them all. Sit them in the third pew. I want her to see thirty cuts when she walks in.”
That was the only request my father made about the charter at the wedding.
He did not ask the brothers to do anything.
He did not ask them to stand up. He did not ask them to push the chair.
They did it because they had been watching my father for thirty-one years and they knew, the second my father’s right hand dropped for the third time in the aisle, what was being asked of them without anybody having to ask.
That is what a patch means.
That is what a charter is.
PART 6
My father lived sixty-eight more days after my wedding.
He spent twenty-three of them in our small house outside Tipton, in the hospice bed my mother and I had set up in the living room next to the woodstove. He spent the rest in the hospital in Iowa City. He passed at four eighteen in the morning on a Thursday in late October, with my mother holding his right hand and me holding his left.
In the inside pocket of his cut — which my mother had laid across the foot of his hospice bed for the last twenty-three days of his life — we found a small folded piece of lined notebook paper.
It was in his handwriting.
It was dated August 17th, 2024.
The day after my wedding.
My father had written it the morning after the ceremony, sitting at the kitchen table at six a.m. with a cup of coffee he was not going to drink. My mother had walked in and seen him writing. She had not asked him what he was writing. She had given him space.
He had folded the note. He had put it in the inside pocket of his cut. He had not told either of us about it.
The note said:
Rachel and Susan —
I saw her walk down the aisle. I did not think I was going to. Thirty of my brothers picked up the chair. They did not have to. They did anyway. That is what a brother is.
Rachel — thank you for stopping for me at the seam in the carpet. You did not have to do that either. You did anyway. That is what a daughter is.
Susan — twenty-eight years. There are not enough words. The cut is yours when I’m gone. Pink ribbon stays on. Give it to Rachel’s first daughter, if she has one.
I am going with happiness.
All my love,
Hatch
That is what my father wrote.
That is the note.
PART 7
We buried him on a Tuesday in early November.
There were ninety-six bikes in the parking lot of the cemetery. Our charter rode in. Three other charters came from as far as Des Moines and Cedar Rapids. The procession down Cedar Street was a mile long.
Bishop carried the cut up to the casket at the graveside.
He laid it across the top.
The pink ribbon patch with my name on it was visible on the inside front panel, facing up.
The bikes rolled out at sundown.
The V-twins faded down Cedar Street.
He went with happiness.
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